Mirror, mirror on the wall, tell me who is the biggest fool?
I’ve tried to adopt a new philosophy in my life to be less judgmental of others. Sure the thoughts still come up, but rather than give them light I use them for reflection.
The mirror on the wall forces you to look at yourself. To see your reflection, how you look on the outside to others.
Surely, that’s only a reflection. It’s but an image, the external view of yourself, not actually you.
But isn’t this how we judge others?
Just a reflection?
We see a situation, an event, a news story, an action, or behaviour and form an opinion based merely on a reflection.
You probably saw the trap coming – yet how often do we jump to a conclusion based on opinion rather than facts?
The Plank or the Speck
So rather than condemn or judge someone else, when I get the thought I look in the reflection.
I ask myself questions like why?
Why do I feel that way towards this person? Why does this evoke such emotions? Why do I judge someone else this way?
Then, I reflect, turn the mirror on me.
There’s a story in the bible which talks about removing the plank from your own eye before picking out the speck from someone else. (Mt 7:1-5)
Judgment should be saved for the mirror, a judgment of my own thoughts, behaviours, actions and outcomes.
Shades of Grey
It’s easy to judge someone else on the outcomes in black and white, yet for ourselves it’s shades of grey.
After all, we know what we intended. We know what we were trying to do.
We judge ourselves by our ideals yet too often others by the outcomes.
For me I’m trying something different. As I come across events or situations that irritate me I reflect first, look at them in the mirror – it’s amazing how it changes your perspective.